In her recent article for Real Simple magazine, entitled "10 questions to ask your mother," Judith Newman writes:
"...as adults, so many of us don't ask enough about our mothers. (Maybe we're scared. More likely we just don't get around to it.) Yet there's no better way to become closer to a person, even if you've known her your entire life...Try them out this Mother's Day. You may even learn something about yourself."
So I did it. For me, it was nice to ask questions that were not my own. That way there was no expectation or baggage attached to them. It was purely to get to know her better.
Her answers were very thoughtful and honest but I'm only going to share a few brief excerpts because some of the answers may not be suitable for public blog consumption.
I've included the complete list of questions below so you can ask your moms too. If you do, be sure to come back here and share your experience or a quote or two in the comments. I'll get us started.
1) What's one thing you would have done differently as a mom?2) Why did you choose to be with my father?3) In what ways, do you think I'm like you? And not like you?4) Which one of us kids did you like the best?5) Is there anything you have always wanted to tell me but you never have?6) Do you think it's easier or harder to be a mother now than when you were raising our family?7) Is there anything you regret not having asked your parents?8) What's the best thing I can do for you right now?9) Is there anything that you wish had been different between us -- or that you would still like to change?10) When did you realize you were no longer a child?